When An Open Adoption Becomes Closed

According to Heather Carlini, founder of the Carlini Institute which trains post-adoption counselors, the majority of open adoptions end up being closed by the adopters at some point. After her daughter’s adopters cut off contact with her, one mother was told by her adoption agency that more than 80 percent of open adoptions end up being closed against the mother’s wishes.

When a parent is expecting to have continued contact, losing that connection is devastating. If you have lost your child to an open adoption that was suddenly closed by the adopters, you may find it cathartic to speak out about your experience. By speaking up, you can help educate other women about the premise of open adoption and share your experiences with those considering this path. Many mothers find that using their grief and anger to motivate their advocacy provides them with a sense of comfort.