Anger And Advocacy

Anger is another common emotion for mothers who have lost a child to adoption. It may be present always, or it may begin to surface with time and experience. It is important to remember that anger is not a bad thing. Anger can be an incredible motivator when used properly. Many mothers report that using this powerful emotion has helped them to become advocates for other parents and for themselves. In doing so, they have been able to help other women to avoid adoption and enjoy parenting their own babies. Activism has given them a sense of purpose and healing.

If you encounter a mother who is angry over her loss, take care to remember that she has valid reasons for her anger. Natural mothers, too, are justified in feeling anger at the adoption industry and its supporters.