Personal References

Finding good personal references for the homestudy is important, because these reference letters will be read. The references should convey that the couple is ready and will make good parents. The adopting couple should put careful thought into who they would like to write their reference letters. They should be sure to choose people they have known for at least a few years.

They should also consider the person's background (choose people who are parents to explain good parenting traits). They should also check that the reference does not have any prejudices against international or transracial adoptions. Also, parents should advise the reference that the letter is important to them. Adopting parents should first ask if a person is willing to be a reference. Parents want to ensure that the person writing the reference will be happy to recommend them and not view letter as a hassle.