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It is common for new adoptive parents to suffer from depression after an adoption.
Symptoms of Post-Adoption Depression are:
If you are experiencing any of these symptoms, seek counseling, and know that you are not alone. Surround yourself with a support system of friends and family members who are understanding, and won't judge you. In time, this will pass, be patient, and allow yourself adequate time to adjust to your new role as an adoptive parent.
Setting up a good support system is an important part of the adoption process. Choose to surround yourself in the days and weeks following the adoption with friends and family members who are in agreement with your adoption plan, and will be supportive of you as you adjust to your new parenting role. Now is not the time to have frequent contact with those who are not supportive of your decision to adopt, or your adopted child. You need time to get acquainted with your child, and to get used to the changes within your new family. You and your spouse are going through some major life-changes, and being surrounded by a loving and positive support system will make coping with these changes much easier.
Another way to surround yourself with supportive people is to seek out an adoptive parent support group, or consider starting one in your area. Also, if you find yourself exhibiting the symptoms of Post-Adoption Depression, do not hesitate to seek counseling by an experienced adoption counselor.
Birth Mother’s Day is celebrated the Saturday before Mother’s Day each year. Many adoptive parents realize the gift and sacrifice that their adopted child’s birth mother made for them to be able to have their adopted child.
Here are some ideas for honoring your child’s birth mother on her special day:
Birth Mother's Day is a holiday that is celebrated the Saturday before Mother's Day for adopting parents to commemorate the birth mothers in their lives. Some support groups may offer ceremonies to celebrate Birth Mother's Day. Other parents choose to celebrate the holiday by sending a card, a letter, or flowers to the birth mother.
If you have adopted privately, and are remaining in contact with your child’s birth mother, don’t forget to honor her on Birth Mother’s Day which is the Saturday before Mother’s Day. Show her your appreciation by sending her a gift that she will treasure: a locket with a smiling photo of your child, or a lock of his/her hair; a handwritten letter of gratitude, including a detailed description of your child’s day-to-day life, and a photo. There are several adoption shops online that carry beautiful gifts designed especially with the birth mother in mind. You don’t have to spend a lot of money to let your child’s birth mother know that you are thankful for the gift of your adopted child.
|Jennifer Mathes, Ph.D.|