Adoption Tips

Symptoms Of Post-Adoption Depression

It is common for new adoptive parents to suffer from depression after an adoption.

Symptoms of Post-Adoption Depression are:

• Feeling blue, tearful, irritable


• Weight loss or gain


• Inability to sleep or noticeably sleeping more


• Feeling restless, or a feeling of being slowed down


• Fatigue


• Loss of interest in activities that used to bring pleasure, or a diminished pleasure in those activities


• A feeling of worthlessness, or guilt


• Unable to concentrate


• Thoughts of suicide

If you are experiencing any of these symptoms, seek counseling, and know that you are not alone. Surround yourself with a support system of friends and family members who are understanding, and won't judge you. In time, this will pass, be patient, and allow yourself adequate time to adjust to your new role as an adoptive parent.

Birth Mother's Day: Gift Ideas

Birth Mother’s Day is celebrated the Saturday before Mother’s Day each year. Many adoptive parents realize the gift and sacrifice that their adopted child’s birth mother made for them to be able to have their adopted child.

Here are some ideas for honoring your child’s birth mother on her special day:

• Give her a mother’s ring, locket, or other piece of jewelry which holds a photo of the child she placed for adoption, the child’s birth stone, or other significant symbol.


• Video tape the child playing at the park, at the zoo, or other special place where the child is having fun, and give this as a special keepsake.


• Another idea is to video tape a normal day in the life of your child. Your child’s birth mother will appreciate seeing what her child’s daily life is like, and it will confirm to her that her child is doing well and is happy.


• Make a plaster hand or foot print of your child.


• Write a letter of gratitude to your child’s birth mother. Express your heart felt appreciation for her sacrifice and gift, and include photos of the child.


• Start a blog or webpage about your child, include lots of photos and details about daily life and special events. To keep your private life private, many blogs have the capability of setting it private to all but invited users.

Tips for Home Study Survival

An adoption home study can seem intimidating and daunting, especially given the pile of paperwork you are required to fill out! Here are some survival tips that will make your adoption home study proceed more smoothly, and be a lot less stressful.

1. Relax! Take each step of the home study process one step at a time.


2. Answer your profile and social worker questions as accurately and concisely as possible.


3. Complete your paperwork and gather documentation in a timely manner.


4. Make copies of everything. Items and pages have a way of getting lost in the shuffle with the large amount of paperwork and documents that you will need to turn in. Making copies to keep for your own file will save time should something suddenly become lost.


5. Remember that the home study is a process, it takes time. Don’t expect your worker to have it completed and approved overnight. Give her ample time, and speed things along by promptly completing your part of the paperwork. You can expect a home study to take an average of six weeks to complete.

The Home Study: Paperwork And Documentation

Your home study will consist of a large amount of paperwork and required documents. The amount of paperwork that a home study requires can be overwhelming for prospective adoptive parents. Just remember, Rome wasn’t built in a day, it was built one brick at a time. The same goes for your home study paperwork, just take it one piece of information at a time and before you know it you’ll be ready to move onto the next phase of the adoption journey.

Here is a list of documents you will need to supply:

• Proof of income and assets,


• A list of household expenses,


• Marriage licenses,


• Divorce decrees,


• Birth certificates,


• Adoption decrees,


• Background checks,


• Health assessments on each member of your household,


• Training certificate- many states require a pre-adoption training course,


• Letters of reference

Please be aware that this is not an all inclusive list, the worker assigned to conduct your home study may require additional documentation based on your own background, family situation, or agency/ state requirements.

Foster Child Adoption: An Alternative To Costly Private Adoptions

According to the Child Welfare League of America, there are over 126,000 children in foster care who are legally available for adoption in the U.S. Adopting from foster care is a great alternative to traditional private adoption, which typically costs an average of $20,000 or more. There are many families who want to adopt, but find the cost of private adoption, whether domestic or international, to be out of reach financially. By adopting from the foster care system, adoption once again becomes a viable option for the average family.

A drawback to foster child adoption is that most of the children available are older children, above age 7, and most have had parental rights terminated due to abuse or neglect; therefore, there is the potential of physical, emotional, or behavioral problems resulting from past maltreatment. However, most public adoption agencies will provide services and support beyond the adoption finalization, and the children often qualify for medical and mental health subsidies from the state.

If you are interested in adopting from foster care contact your local social services agency for further information.